I Am Not Able To Live Up To The Ideals of The Church Of Splendor

8 Sep

But, that doesn’t mean it’s not worthwhile.

The second rule of the Church Of Splendor is I am not arguing with you. You can read more about the rules here. I believe that Greg Swann is at 5 now, but, he may have added more. I avidly watch his videos when they come out and try to keep up with his prodigious writings at http://selfadoration.com/ . I am busy maintaining my middle-class status which requires work more than anything. I work at a job and I work at home and, most importantly, I work at my marriage. The last item is the one that listening to Greg helps me with the most. “Marriage is the second most important relationship in your life. The most important, being your relationship with yourself.” “Working at” your marriage: What does it mean – and why bother?

So, I take the rules kind of seriously. Even though the rules themselves are a little whimsical sounding, they are incredibly serious – or more rightly, seriously important.

I still have trouble living up to the rules, especially number two. I love to share ideas. I love to think about my own ideas and test them out and test my own understanding of ideas, my own or otherwise. This makes it difficult to live rule #2. I still feel the need to try to pursuade people to my opinion through arguments.

Although I realize that this may cause me to inflict pain which lowers my own self opinion, I feel that I am entitled to defend my positions in so far as my opponents advocate for action, through elected government that causes me harm. This is a form of self-defence. One day, I may be in a position where I believe I am capable of withstanding government inflicted harm where upon, arguing with people will cause more harm than good. This is still my goal and it is my goal to attain such self-reliance.

For the time being, I am very vulnerable to actions taken on behalf of government and government only seems to be getting stronger. In the present situation, I maintain that I am better off sharing my opinions and arguing with others to defend my positions as well as voting to affect the government to do less harm to my person, family and property. This may make me a bad anarchist, but, pragmatism is still influencing my actions.

So, I continue to argue, argue and argue as long as my fellow citizens are so enamoured by Marxist ideas they can’t even understand. I am currently being goaded by a couple of what Rand called the looter class on Facebook. I wrote this post instead, trying to back myself down from making harmful comments. The comment I want to write is basically this:

The leftist in Canada could shit his pants and blame Stephen Harper. Then he’d call on government to clean up his mess.

This is a devastating comment that will certainly cause anger and could cause irreparable harm to the relationship I have with the person who’s profile I’m commenting on. I hope that I can come up with some way to make my point without damaging the person involved. This is an example of why Greg wants followers of the Church to avoid arguing. I can see why it is right, but, I have difficulty living up to the ideal.

Isn’t that what church is supposed to be about?

The Safe Play

24 Jan

Each day grinds me down like the lead of a pencil. Each night I whittle the pencil down into a sharp point with dreams of the previous day’s markings and the world I hope to build for myself one day.

I once proudly showed a co-worker the macro I had created to save me hours per day in data analysis. “Spreadsheets.” He said. “Is that what you want your life’s big accomplishment to be? When you tell your son what your life’s work resulted in, are you going tell him you made rows of data look nice?”

It was disconcerting to receive this reaction. I was using my knowledge and skill to organize data and make it meaningful. He didn’t know an integer from a text value. He had inherited a different set of ideals and ambitions than I had and had not focused on learning skills with data tools that I found essential for keeping my place in the economy. I know he sensed that there was more to me than picking through numbers in a corporate office. We were both in the wrong place for different reasons. I was there out of necessity. I needed to work to support myself and my family. He was there because a family member, a senior executive, had gotten him the job. My group had been the recipient of a nepotistic-political hire.

Of course, he was treated with kid gloves, even when it became apparent that he didn’t like the work we were doing. Technical data analysis was not exactly what he considered interesting. Eventually, everyone noticed the real reason for his placement. The executives of our department gave regular speeches over the phone. The whole department would gather in small groups in the various meeting rooms to listen together, but, he always went missing shortly before these events. We found out that he was in the board room with the executives, one of whom was his family member. Whatever menial task had been assigned to him for our group was not as important as the work he did for her. He was writing her speeches.

Executive speeches are the most carefully crafted language that exists, outside of the political realm. The messages have to be congratulatory without sounding pandering, optimistic yet cautious, inspiring and encouraging. Every sentence spoken in Executivese is designed to sound as if it contains authoritative and concrete statements while only giving glimpses of the real meaning behind them. The latest business buzz words are mixed with diplomatic language hinting at what departments might expect to reduce the number of employees, where the money will be invested and which departments are going to have to change their focus and methods.

Once I learned that he was writing these speeches, I sent every politically delicate email that couldn’t word properly to him for final editing. Each one came back with my lumbering sentences transformed into the most articulate, concise, professional wording that I’d ever seen. He was a real magician with language.

The man left soon after his relation moved on. My boss got tired of him; he didn’t belong there. I learned a lot about writing professionally and a few other tricks of the trade while we worked together. He showed me a few of his blog posts. I thought they were rather brilliant. I showed him some of mine from that period. He thought they were well written, but, on the gloomy side. I guess we had different perspectives entirely. Whatever schooling he had received, private no doubt, prepared him for a career I had no right to dream about with my unambitious youth. Still, we found common ground.

I looked him up and found a Linkden account and he seems to be doing very well. He was made for the executive lifestyle.

Me, I’m not an executive. I keep at it with my spreadsheets and databases, knowing that while I am good at it, it is not my ideal work. I’m trying to build something besides a long corporate tenure, pension plan and retirement plan. It’s the safe play I took when I was young, after wasting my younger days with no direction. Now, I know I have to make a solid attempt at making something bigger before the pencil whittles down too far. If it fails, at least I can say that I tried to build something more than spreadsheets for some executive.

Feminism is a Power Play

20 Jan

You are likely familiar with the friendly face of equality feminism. You were told that all feminists want is equality of the sexes. However, you may not realize that feminism has turned the basic human relationship between man and woman into a power struggle. Enter the Cultural Marxists. Instead of an agreement or union between two individual human beings, feminism, when it isn’t openly at war with marriage, has inserted itself as an agent of the female party to fight against the male party who they’ve decided belongs to the most evil of male creations, the Patriarchy. The Patriarchy, so they claim, informs all of your biases and beliefs. It causes everything from marital violence to rape to the wage gap. Males, according to feminists, invented marriage to oppress women under The Patriarchy. The Patriarchy enforced rigid gender roles and invented the whole concept of gender just so masculine people would have someone to oppress. Everything is political, politics is power and power is divided unequally between groups and groups constantly battle to oppress one another. You are either an oppressor or oppressed. You can see how such a divisive philosophy intruding itself into your personal relationship could cause problems. If your wife accepts the notion that she is a victim of oppression and you belong to a privileged class that enforces this dynamic, you are going to lose every argument because you will likely try to see it as an argument between two equals. However, feminism instructs its female adherents to see it as an argument between two members of unequal classes. The purpose of this is not to achieve equality, it is actually to undermine, alter and destroy society.

To put it short, feminism ceased being about equality about the same time that equality, as defined by individual freedoms was achieved years ago. No individual is prevented from pursuing his or her dreams until you invent concepts (excuses) like privilege and micro-aggression and insist on constantly inventing new segments of society that are further and further ostracized by the mainstream. Now we have more and more groups like LGBT and trans-people who claim that society oppresses them for not going out of its way to be inclusive for them. As a male, they say that everything you have earned is due to male privilege. Your abilities, your hard work, your commitment have had nothing to do with whatever success you’ve achieved. To feminists, or anyone who follows identity politics, you just got lucky to be born male. Multiply this privilege by 50 if you happen to be white as well.

You’re saying that you probably don’t have to deal with this, because, your wife-to-be is not feminist, or at least doesn’t take it this far. The problem is, feminism has been working its way into the mainstream in  a myriad of ways. It permeates virtually everything – politics, law, culture, academics, business and so on. Everyone who doesn’t actually make themselves aware of the inner workings of feminist politics is susceptible to its malignancy. It must be actively resisted like a contagion or a tumor.

Since the mainstream has completely swallowed the feminist pill believing that it is only about achieving equality. Even people who claim not to be feminists, will often be heard spouting feminist propaganda that has infected everything. The only way to be sure that someone is immune is if they actually denounce and reject feminism. So, your wife-to-be has likely learned to nod along when Oprah, some Hollywood Celebrity or some pop singer spouts on about helping women with whatever problem seems to be plaguing them while males are denigrated and male suffering is ignored. She is likely trained not to be judgmental when young women behave in self-destructive, slutty ways and just say you go-girl. I call it, aptly Oprah feminism or you go-girl feminism.

The result of failure or inability to pass judgment on behavior is Miley Cyrus, who I say is a result of too much GO-GIRL and not enough WOAH, GIRL! It’s all well and good for her to act as if slutting around the world is no big deal because whatever personal problems result from her behavior, she can afford the damage control, rehab and therapy money can buy. It’s not so, for your future daughters. They will have to face every consequence their actions cause. It’s no better for your sons who will have to face hyper-sexualized, hypergamous young ladies.

Now, even if your wife is sensible and understands your concerns with feminism, or simply doesn’t think about it and it’s not a discussion you have, feminism allows friends and family to ask questions about your “treatment” of her. Did you disagree with your wife about something? Well, friends, family and acquaintances who buy into feminism think it is their right and their duty to berate your for not letting the woman have her way in all matters. They’re afraid that your wife is not empowered enough to stand up for herself in your marriage. It doesn’t matter how fairly matters in your marriage are handled, feminism will try to make it seem as though the two of you are not alone in the room.

Now cheer up. There are many strategies for combating feminism in your personal life. Remember, every strong marriage is like a stone in radical feminism’s marching boot. It bothers them that a man and woman can be happy together. There are feminists who do not think this way. There are MRA’s who fight for fathers rights, should things go wrong. But most importantly, there are truth-speakers who will help you find a way to make a strong marriage work by learning about the true nature of human relationships and the political system.











Everything A Man Needs To Know Before Getting Married (Part 1 of ∞)

20 Jan

So you’re going to get married.

First, I’d like to say, congratulations. You have found someone you love, trust and respect enough to share your life. Someone who will help you attain everything you want out of life and who will accept your love and support to help her get everything she wants. A good marriage will lift the individuals within it to higher levels of life satisfaction than could possibly be attained alone. I’m happy for you.

I have one more thing to say: Are you nuts??? How sure are you about this person’s integrity and honour? Are you capable of earning this person’s love years and decades into the future? Do you understand the risks that you are taking to tie your fate and fortune to a woman who may choose not to honour her vows or falters in her emotional commitment to you? Are you ready to stand up for yourself in the face of a woman influenced by a combination of natural imperative, emotional turmoil and an victim mentality instilled in her by outsiders insisting on inserting their agenda into your union?

Are you still interested? Good. You must be brave. Marriage takes courage. Despite the risks, I strongly believe that marriage can be beneficial for the participants. I also believe it is the foundation of society. For a human culture to survive and thrive, it must have strong, healthy relationships between people and marriage is the strongest, most important of these bonds. Two strong people committed to each other for their entire lives enhance each person’s abilities and help them face adversity that they couldn’t face individually. This strength makes for confidence that governments, corporations and other organizations cannot compete with.

Now, in order to create a strong marriage, men must understand some basic facts about their own nature and the nature of their wives as well as the politics and culture that they must face.

1. Feminism is a power play.

2. Marriage is for the purpose of procreation.

3. Female Hypergamy

4. The Man Must Lead

5. You must earn love every day.

I will add links to actual articles as they are posted.